White Person: [Expresses demonstrably racist/sexist/ableist/transmisiast/nativist view.]
Reasoned Response: Here is why your *ist views are wrong.
White Person: You just called me a *ist! You hurt my feelings! [Optional: list of all the wonderful things I’ve done for BIPOC/disabled/female/LGBTQ* people.]
White Chorus: You hurt White Person’s feelings! He’s such a nice guy! He has done so many good things for BIPOC/disabled/female/LGBTQ* people! Two wrongs don’t make a right! Both sides need to apologize!
White Apologist: Reasoned Response said something negative about white people. That’s just like saying something negative about BIPOC/disabled/female/LGBTQ*/etc people.
Reasoned Response: No, actually, *ism is about power differentials.
Discussion Police: We’ve been talking about this for a whole day. It’s annoying. A civil rights listserv is no place to discuss *ism. Time to end the discussion.